Wow, I can say with all honesty, motherhood is tough! Yes, it is a blessing to have little mini me’s running around and to have all that unconditional love flood your way. But, there is definitely something to all the stories I have heard from my parents, grandparents, and great-grandparents when they would tell me of the different things they dealt with in being a parent. When you are a kid, and your mom says, “Wait until you become a parent,” you do not realize the warning in those few words. But when you grow up and become a Mom or Dad, all the sayings and warnings come flooding back. I used to say I will never treat my kids the way I was treated, or have them go to bed when it’s still light outside, but now all I can say is,” I wanna be like her!”
Whether you are a parent of your own children or a surrogate parent to someone else’s child, you bear the weight of huge responsibility. Everything you say or do will influence that little person in many ways. I have often found myself pondering the how’s and what’s of the raising of myself. My parents were not perfect, but in my eyes my mother could do no wrong. She walked on water, could hear my faintest cry, could take away monsters under my bed, and she looked beautiful while doing all of it. I always knew I wanted to be like her when I grew up. She made everything look easy. But she would always warn me that things were never what they seemed. And when I had a question on why she did not handle us a certain way, she would always answer, “just wait until you become a parent.”
“She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong.” Proverbs 31:17
The book of Proverbs describes the most incredible woman to look up to. To be clothed with dignity is a statement that many mothers find easy and difficult to achieve at the same time. I see many women who take on motherhood in either positive or negative ways. They either portray the truth for their children or withhold the truth from their children. Motherhood does not come with a manual or a guidebook on how keep it all together. We naturally take it all on and often forget that we are also human as well. Just like I put my mom on that Invincible pedestal, we as mothers put one another there as well. Often forgetting that we must first take care of ourselves.
“She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens.” Proverbs 31:15
Being a mother is a 24/7 job. If you do not agree then think back to your childhood, and in all the situations you found yourself in. Who was the one you looked to for guidance and comfort? Who did you call on when you were sick to your stomach? Who picked you up from school when you were hurt? Who attended your plays or awards ceremonies? Who read you all your favorite bedtime stories? I received all that and more from my mom, and still look to her for guidance and comfort, just in a different way. She is my best friend, and all of us are blessed to still have our mom here to experience parenthood along with us.
“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28
God has blessed us all with strong, beautiful and courageous women to look up to. We should all say “I Wanna be like Her”, because our Mom’s are on point. They paved the way for us and helped us to realize our potential. This Mother’s Day is another chance to thank them and give them their flowers while they are still alive. Don’t miss your moment. As always you got this!