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To Be In Need vs. Being Needy!

​I remember when my boys were babies it drove me crazy how much their little lives depended on me. They couldn’t feed themselves or bathe themselves, or clothe themselves. They couldn’t even communicate with me to let me know if something was bothering them except to cry. And cry they did. I gave birth to the hungriest boys on the planet. They were happiest when their Mommy was supplying all their needs. Even though I was exhausted, I was happy to supply them.

But as adults, neediness and need somehow become intertwined. From a relationship standpoint, how many of you start a relationship expecting the other to supply all your needs? Just like a newborn, we depend on others to do it all for us. We depend on others to show us how to act, how we should dress, who to idolize, who to be friends with, and we also depend on others to figure out our own identities. You realize none of these things can be permanently filled by people right?

You hear men and women today do a rundown list of all the needs they have that they expect a flesh and blood human to supply. From birth we have always been dependant on someone to supply our needs out of pure selfishness. People enter into everything now with only the mindset of how the situation will benefit them and then will be resentful if their need is not fulfilled. I have to let you in on a secret… We are depending on the wrong source for our supplies.

GOD Is My Supplier

“I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength.”
Philippians 4:11-13 NIV

GOD created us to be needful creatures. If we were never in need, we would never look to Him. We would go about our lives tooting our own horns, glorifying ourselves, pretty much being the ridiculous humans that we fight daily not to be. When He created Adam and Eve, He created them totally dependant on Him just like babies are dependent on their parents. And while being obedient to the supplier they would never perish but if they chose disobedience (to eat from the tree of knowledge) then they will die. And we all know how that story went. It makes you realize that even with just the two of them, Satan still managed to manifest doubts in the supplier and they ultimately gave in to the neediness instead of being content with being in need.

We need to breathe, we need to eat/drink water, we need to sleep, and we need to be nurtured and cared for. As human beings these four things are keys to our survival. How many times have you thanked GOD for supplying these basic yet very important needs in your life? How many of us are fighting depression, anxiety, anger, pain, frustration because someone did not supply all our needs? Your husband nor your wife can do it. Your friends and family can’t do it. Not even a Pastor or therapist know how to satisfy those deep hidden needs that many times most of us do not know we have. Our creator made us fearfully and wonderfully made so each one of us comes with a different set of needs that only the supplier can fill. That is how we have been created people, in need for the supply that only GOD can fill.

Now at the close of another need filled day, let us take stock on how much pressure we put on ourselves and others to be the GOD(supplier) in our lives. Jesus tells us:
“but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” John 4:14

Stop being needy for temporary supply and become content with GOD’s endless supply. As always, you got this!



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